A way of thinking that will take you through difficulties
In the workplace, what kind of people will be more narrow, gradually lose competitiveness and professional value?
A friend who switched to insurance last year and did not open his own market for more than a year, so he wanted to break.
When he offered to quit his supervisor, the supervisor asked him why he couldn’t go on:
The insurance industry has a bad reputation, and many people think that insurance is fraudulent;
The company is doing high-end insurance products, the other party said that you are in order to make more Commission, every day to experience this misunderstanding;
Sales need to accumulate for a long time to make money, their more than a year did not make any money, is going to persist in……
Said a lot, the boss only asked him a question: “You said the problem is that everyone in the insurance industry is experiencing, have you ever asked yourself, how do those who have a fixed customer base and are trusted by customers face these problems?”
Work will always encounter a class of people, especially to find problems, industry problems, company management problems, development direction of the problem, colleagues.
Sometimes start to do a new project, he can also be the head of the project where there are risks, where unreasonable, where the need to correct……
Reasonably speaking, they are all right, but there is no change in the development of things.
There are two kinds of attitudes in life, in the life of each thing, we are either the judge, or the learner, this choice is made by our initiative.
In the workplace, the “judge” may be correct, but nothing can change, only the “learner”, can effectively make results, and constantly improve.
How to distinguish between a judge and a learner?
Imagine a scenario where you screw up a thing and you would ask yourself:
Why am I so dumb?
Why would it take a lot to know the risks?
Why is there such a bad chance recently?
When you have these problems in your mind, you are falling into a “judge mentality”, you will find that there are problems, there is not perfect, it is easy to be emotional.
Learners are different, they will always ask themselves whether they are trapped in the critical thinking, ask themselves what is the correct goal, how to solve the problem, to achieve the goal.
The former focused on labeling, the latter focused on finding the answer.
The judge is the state that everyone naturally enters when facing the problem, which is inevitable, but it needs to be converted into the learner’s mentality in time.
Only by converting the judge’s mentality into question-based thinking, observing his own thoughts and feelings, and finding the problem, can he make a more informed choice.
“Extraordinary Results begin with great questions,” which can transform thinking through questioning, and thus influence action and results.
Met an entrepreneur, he in the first two years of business, the business has not been improved, until the third year gradually on the right track.
In this process, his perspective on the problem has also changed.
When he started his business, he asked himself every day: how can he do better? How can we make a bigger career? How can we make everyone more productive? How to make more money?
These questions asked him day and night Anxiety, every day to worry about the company can not go down.
Later, he changed the way the questions were asked to himself: What is it that makes you happy today? What’s in your pain? Is it true that this is causing you pain?
The way of self-reflection has changed, his mood has also changed, and he has become more able to listen to his feelings and focus on the changes that can be made at the moment. The atmosphere of the team has become relaxed and the work has gained twice the result.
In my day, I learned to ask my own questions in order to learn self-reflection.
Yu Minhong once said: “There are three sentences, I ask themselves every day, is there someone love, is there something to do, is there any expectation?”
Another entrepreneur suggests young people: often ask yourself three questions, what do you have? What do you want? What are you giving up? So you don’t get lost.
Real change always begins with a change in the way we think, and is most specifically reflected in the questions we ask ourselves.
The so-called “right” problems are those that give strength to others, rather than those that are frustrating.
When you encounter a problem, the first time to ask yourself:
Is this what I want?
What can I learn from this?
From what perspective can I see the problem?
What can I do now?
What are the possibilities?
How can I turn this into a win-win situation?
Socrus said: the highest level of human wisdom is to ask themselves or others.
When we look at problems with a question-asking mind, we are more likely to grow into a lifelong learner with a growing mind.
There is such a story.
Susan was very happy with her job, but she had a lot of problems and conflicts with her boss, which often led her to hesitate whether she should quit her job, so she turned to the author, “Why is he always uncomfortable?” “What did I do wrong?”
The author asked her to change her perspective, not to worry about her boss, but to ask herself a question.
Susan was frozen and did not know what to say.
The author also suggested that she: you can ask yourself, what can I do to make him more face?
This question goes far beyond the boundaries of the mentality of Susan’s view of the boss, but she decided to give it a try.
After a period of time, Susan was proud to report to the author that she was promoted and raised, and also worked as a community volunteer with her boss, they used to feel asphyxiated even in a room.
Using the tools and skills of “question-thinking”, the authors saved the careers of many people, thus changing their lives.
How much value a person has in the workplace depends on his ability and contribution. To the learner’s position, finding and solving problems is the only secret of his appreciation.